4 Life Hacks for when you really need (but don't want) to Get Sh*t Done
Set Boundaries With Yourself, Your Growth Depends On It
If you’ve heard of self-care, you’ve probably heard about setting boundaries. And maybe you’ve learned how to set boundaries within your partners, friends, bosses, and families. Communicating our needs to others is an integral part of maintaining healthy relationships.
But what does it mean to create boundaries with ourselves? Setting and maintaining boundaries with ourselves can help us feel more in control with our lives. They are a way of showing ourselves love and respect.
Here’s how you can start:
Identify what parts of your life need to be limited. Maybe you’re spending too much time on TikTok. Maybe your sleep schedule is off because you’re going to bed too late and waking up too early. Or perhaps you’re sacrificing your socializing time because you feel like you need to study or work. Whatever it is, take note of it.
Create realistic boundaries. Emphasis on realistic. Sure, it would be great if you could finish all your work and get to bed by 10pm, but sometimes that’s just not doable. Create tangible goals that work for you. For example, if your brain starts getting fuzzy and tired by the time 6pm rolls around, set a boundary by not allowing yourself to work past 6pm. That might mean having to wake up early to finish, but at least you are respecting your body’s needs.
Remember that boundaries are flexible. Sometimes, our emotional, physical, or mental batteries burn out quicker or slower than normal. Notice when your energy levels are more or less than usual, and adjust accordingly. If you’re feeling particularly lonely or down, allow more time for reaching out to friends. If you’re totally burnt out this week, cut back on work time and allow for a bit more self-care time.
Let go of perfectionism. Creating and maintaining boundaries with ourselves is a tough process. We’re so used to criticizing ourselves-- it’s a difficult habit to break. Be compassionate toward yourself when making change. If you’re having trouble maintaining a boundary, adjust it. Remember: you’re doing this for you.
Examples of boundaries you can set for yourself:
● Budgeting your finances
● Limiting the time you spend on social media
● Reaching out for support when you need it
● Setting consistent meal times
● Setting consistent bed times
● Avoiding work emails after work hours
● Exercising
