SNEAK PEAK: What a Therapist Would Tell You
I am a therapist. I train therapists. This morning, I was writing some training materials for a cohort of new therapists, and I was reminded why we started humanest. There are highly effective, very simple techniques that therapists deploy to help their clients. But, in traditional systems, you must find a therapist (not so easy to do), schedule an appointment (days of phone tag), wait a few weeks for the appointment, then maybe–just maybe–you can get 1 actionable tidbit to apply to your life, but more likely you’ll spend that session going over your history.
At humanest, we want to cut to the chase. Let’s just give you the tools directly! You try them, then if you want support applying them in your life, we can do that, too. (Connect here, free and anonymously, with 1000s of others practicing these tools in their lives.)
Sneak Peek Inside the Therapist’s Tool Kit:
Today’s intervention is designed to help you focus on what is working, rather than what is not. Why? Because, when you focus on the problem, the problem increases, when you focus on the solution, the solution increases. Looking at what is not working leads to hopelessness and stagnation. Building on little wins, on exceptions to the problem…that’s where the magic happens, so let’s do more of that!
EARS is an acronym therapists use to help their clients tap into strengths and solutions. If you paid for a therapy session, you might hear these questions from your therapist…so imagine being asked these. What would you say?
Exception questions
What is going well?
When are things a little better?
Amplifying the change
What made that possible?
How did you do that?
Reinforcing the change
How did that help?
What difference did that make?
Start over
Do it all over again.
Can you do more of what works?
What would that look like?
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